by Kimberly | Jun 30, 2017 | Books, marriage
We all need marriage help. Whether we are single looking to get married (we read books on preparing for marriage). Or we are married and need help in our marriage (so many books on this topic). Or whether we’re no longer married (whether by divorce or death), and we can read books that will help us with that.
We are coming up on 6 years of marriage. They’ve not been easy because we’ve moved a lot and had many external changes and two kids to enter our family in that time. But, we’ve journeyed it together.
Mark and Jill Savage, who have been married a lot longer than we have, wrote a book together about their marriage – the good, the bad, and the ugly.
There are marriage books – and I put them in two categories: practical and theological. Theological books (think The Meaning of Marriage by Keller or This Momentary Marriage by Piper) are heavily theological. Yes, they are practical too, but that is not the main point of the book. Then there are marriage books that are primarily practical. Where these is Scripture in the book, and the author’s biblical worldview comes through, but it is mostly practical in nature.
No More Perfect Marriages falls into the latter category. I find it to be very refreshing that the authors share their story, heartbreak and all. They share how sin affected their relationship and how God redeems hurt and sin and pain.
One of the most helpful parts of this book is the talk about the masks we wear in our relationship with our spouse. I’ve thought about what mask I wear – and I think it definitely changes given the circumstance.
I think this book can help you and your spouse think through some helpful things that might prevent some heavy pain coming in the future – or may help you be prepared to fight that pain together.
Thanks to SideDoor Comm and Moody Publishers for this book. All opinions are my own. They are giving away a copy of this book too – if you would like a chance to win just leave me a comment telling me one of your favorite marriage books!
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by Kimberly | May 19, 2017 | Books
I don’t think you could ever read too many books on prayer, or be encouraged to read more books on prayer, or be encouraged to pray more.
Even though I’ve spent less time in “concentrated” prayer time – like sit with my eyes closed – I’ve spent so much more time in “always be praying” type prayers: with raising kids, driving in ATL traffic, going through painful times, praying for big prayers over and over.
God is very patient about teaching me that He will always answer my prayers: in His way and in His timing. I tend to still get anxious about waiting for an answer to prayer – even though I know He will answer. So, I need to keep learning patience and expectancy.
In the book Unshaken, Cyndie Claypool de Neve and Sally Burke, both who have served in praying ministries, give us practical tips and personal stories to help us see that prayer really is important and it is a way to actively engage with God and be a part of what He is doing in the world. They tell many stories and testimonies of what they have seen God do in the world and in other’s lives – all because of the power of prayer.
Again, if you need encouragement to pursue in your prayer life: maybe because its been a while since you’ve seen God work in powerful ways in your heart or environment through prayer, this one would be a good book to encourage your faith. Never give up. Prayer can definitely ground you in your relationship with God – as you communicate with Him and hear his Heart.
They basically take the prayer outline of ACTS (adoration, confession, thanksgiving and supplication) and use it to encourage us in this ever-happening conversation. We have every reason to praise God, confess where we fall short, praise Him for what He has done, and interceded on the behalf of others. I’m learning all four of these all the time, especially as a mom. These were cherished reminders.
Thanks to SideDoor Com and Harvest House for this book. All opinions are my own.
by Kimberly | May 2, 2017 | mothering
May is here in all its gorgeousness and it is a month to celebrate moms. Moms all play a special role in our lives (whether birth, foster, adopted, or mentor mom). We owe a lot to our moms: knowing how to tie our shoes, feeding us, making our school lunches, driving carpool, talking late in to the night about first boyfriends, being our biggest cheerleaders, praying for us, celebrating our biggest and smallest victories. The list never ends.
How do you celebrate your mom? Or another way to ask it: how would you like to be celebrated? This is a list of the ways that would be good to pamper me with – and hopefully you can get some ideas to pamper your mom with (or give the list to your husband and ask him).
- A night away or a weekend away (solo or a couple’s weekend – no kids). This is honestly what I ask for every year. Depending on our budget it might be a day or night away by myself or just a day in town doing my favorite things without the kids. The top three within a few hours of ATL that I would love to stay at is: Old Edwards Inn, Blackberry Farm, or Serenbe. We’ve celebrated a birthday at Serenbe, but would love the chance to stay there and eat at their amazing restaurant. Of course for me, the beach is ideal, and I’m always home there, but right now its a little far for an overnight. It if were a luxury beach trip, I’d stay here. This year for me I’m getting a day off to do some things I love. I’m heading south of ATL to do a styled shoot then stay and enjoy brunch, coffee, hiking, exploring, shopping, all by myself, which is so refreshing.
2. A great meal. We moms usually spend a lot of time in the kitchen or the drive-thru line or the grocery store. It is fun to be able to eat without working for it. My mister and I are going to a new-to-us place in Buckhead this May. My mister and I love food. For us though, we’ve learned that we love good food but the prices are so high for good food here in ATL, that we’d rather just cook it at home after the boys go to bed. And we love to cook for each other.
3. Gifts. My mister and I love giving gifts. When our bank account doesn’t let us give as big or as often as we would like, we have to get creative. Something both of us do for each other is we keep a gift list. It is a google doc list that both of us can always see and edit, and we love to surprise each other when we can. Right now, here are some of the things on my list. A subscription to this magazine, a gift card to this place (my fave in ATL), or concerts to some of my favorite artists.
4. Pampering. What woman doesn’t enjoy some pampering from time to time? Whether its a facial or a massage, a manicure or a pedicure, time at the spa is usually quiet and wonderful. But, sometimes you can’t get to the spa. Its hard especially with young kids. Well, if you don’t have time or money to get away to a spa this Mother’s Day, I’ve got a special package just for you. The ladies at Moody Sisters, who I have worked with before creating delicious healthy recipes, have given me a special Spring package just for you, a blessed winner. The set you will receive if you win includes: this scrub, this lotion, and this powder. I’ve been using this for the last month and love it. My face always feels super soft after the scrub. My skin feels refreshed in the morning when I wake up (even my hands, because of course that’s how I put on the scrub). The floral smell reminds me of spring in the South so I definitely love that. Moody Sisters makes all of their skin care line with natural ingredients. I love how they interact with their customers and want to make you feel special, especially as a Mom this Mother’s Day. And you don’t have to leave your house to be pampered. After your kids go to bed, turn on a shot bath or shower, play some music, use these Moody Sister’s products, and you’ll be all set!
So, here’s how you get entered to win.
- Leave a comment on the blog telling me what your favorite Mother’s Day gift would be.
- For another entry: go over to Moody Sisters and tell me what you would like to use next.
And to all you mamas out there – you are loved. You are delighted in. You are seen and known.
You’ll also get some lovely goodies from me. This post is sponsored by Moody Sisters and all thoughts are my own.
by Kimberly | Apr 28, 2017 | Books
Recently, we’ve been inviting our children to pray at meal times, when they go to bed, or really whenever they want. It is sweet (ok, maybe not after the 1000th time) to hear them pray for going to the dinosaur park. Or the fire trucks.
But, really, to hear them speak to God, in little faith, not really understanding fully what that means, is engaging.
Last night we read in our family devotion the chapter on the Lord’s Prayer in the Jesus Storybook Bible. How Jesus has a complete understanding how His Father works and hears prayers. And how he didn’t have to write down his prayers, use big words, or have his eyes closed. He just prayed. He spoke His heart.
Donald Whitney, in his typical pastoral, effective teaching style, in his book Praying the Bible, encourages his readers in a method of praying the Scriptures back to God. It unites our hearts with the heart of the One who hears our prayers. His chapter on praying the Psalms was interesting to me. A pastor friend of mine shared this with me when I was going through an extremely hard time a few years ago, and it was definitely one of the best pieces of advice I received.
Whitney acknowledges the problem of our weak prayer lives, but doesn’t leave us there. He guides us in a how-to of sorts of praying the very words of God. If we believe that the Bible is sufficient and perfect, then we can use it to pray for every area of our lives.
I don’t know anyone who would say they pray as good as they ever want to, so this would be a good book to engage your prayer life more.
Thanks Crossway for this book. All opinions are my own.
by Kimberly | Apr 27, 2017 | Books, mothering, parenting, Women
Ok – I’m not really a coffee fan. My mister wishes I would be, so we could sit at places and have cheap drinks (regular black coffee) and talk for hours on end. But, the drinks I like are 5$ so not quite as cheap.
But, I might go drink coffee after reading the Magic of Motherhood. Let me explain.
When you go to coffee with a friend, a true friend, one who shares your worldview, who champions what you are doing, who rejoices with you in the good, who encourages you even on the hard days. Or maybe its not coffee, but you have a margarita at their house, or enjoy some chips and guac together, or eat a bagel together, or a cupcake…friends you are comfortable with. Yeah, those friends…
That’s how I felt when I was reading The Magic of Motherhood. I felt I was chilling with some close friends, friends who were able to share whatever was on their heart, knowing that they shared the same biblical worldview as me (value of their children, value of being a mother, knowing that God loves them and has a great plan for their lives, knowing that we can’t do this thing called motherhood without the Gospel).
These friends knew they wouldn’t face judgment or shame for sharing what was on their hearts. These friends knew I would encourage them with truth.
My favorite genre of books is memoir/biography. I love the fact that the authors of memoirs feel the freedom to share what has gone on in their lives (the good, the bad, and the stuff you’d like to forget), and not feel that they would be punished for it. They were sharing what was going on in their lives so that others might be encouraged or learn from their lives. In biographies, we often learn that the people we look up to or admire don’t (or didn’t in some cases) have it all together.
In today’s Christian circles, we often feel like we have to put on a show to others like we have it all together. Or, we have to couch everything in quoting Bible verses so people will think that our hearts are saturated with truth (which they hopefully are but sometimes we do this just so people will not see the hurt in our hearts and any doubts we might have). When it comes to parenting, I’ve had experiences of shame and judgment when I’ve shared the struggles that I’ve had with motherhood. And I’ve experienced shame because my kids don’t always act perfect in public.
The Magic of Motherhood was like just sitting, reading, knowing I wasn’t alone, knowing that God is in charge and brings good, and we do go through hard stuff as mothers. And we won’t like every moment of it. And not once did I hear “the days are long but the years are short” or “enjoy every moment of it”. I read about real mamas who were sharing real struggles, real joys, real moments. And they even talked about their jobs and their husbands – knowing that when we are mamas life still goes on outside of our children.
If you are needing some encouragement along the motherhood journey, this is a good quick encouraging, non-notetaking, read. You can sit with a cup of coffee, in your yoga pants, and you don’t have to have a pen.
Thanks Tommy Nelson for this book. And you can win one – just tell me something you find fun about motherhood.
by Kimberly | Apr 24, 2017 | Books, life together, Women
Women’s ministries come and women’s ministries go. I mean churches always minister to women, some way, good or bad. But through the years we have seen many fads come and go out of the church.
But, if there is any book, that can be used by all women, young or old, to learn how God wants her to live in relationship with other women in and outside of the church, it is Adorned.
First, its a beautiful book. And its thick – there are 350 pages. And even though its long, all of it is so good. I’ve underlined so much
Second, its written by Nancy Demoss Wolgemuth. She has spent most of her life in ministry with women as a single. Now, she is still ministering to women as a married woman, who also ministers to her husband. She is a wealth of knowledge and wisdom.
She gears her book to women, young and old. Each chapter can be read through eyes of faith, trying to live to spur each other on, to love and good deeds.
So, if you are in women’s ministry, or leading a women’s ministry at your church, I would get this book and devour it, answering the questions, going through it with your ministry team, encourage your pastor to read it for him to get an idea of what women’s ministry should look like.
This doesn’t tell you exactly how you should plan every event or what events you should have, but it gives you biblical guidelines about the personality or reason behind your women’s ministry.
Every women’s ministry should include: Teaching the word in a way that will grip the lives of your women. Time to build meaningful authentic relationships (not all teaching, but good relationship building time too). Multi-generational. And, as a side note to me: some celebrative worship and childcare! But, it is all about living out the Bible in authentic ways to other women, celebrating the Gospel!
Thanks Moody for this wonderful book. All opinions are my own.
by Kimberly | Apr 24, 2017 | Books
As a mom of preschoolers, even ones who like to get out and roam the city every day, we also like to use our home as a place of ministry. But, it can be hard to figure out schedules ways to do ministry.
Hospitality is one way we can be like God to the world and to our family. The Simplest Way to Change the World is a helpful little book that starts with the theology of God being hospitable to us and then gives helpful ways to be hospitable.
My favorite part of the book was their chapter on how hospitality is a part of God’s nature. How he gave extravagantly to those who were his enemies. How he would go to great lengths.
When we are trying to start practicing hospitality, let’s not turn to Southern Living or Instagram to know how to be hospitable, but look to the Word at how God is hospitable to us. Then we can pray that we can live out our relationship with God to our neighbors, families, and friends. That doesn’t mean we have to tell everyone the full Gospel outline every time they walk in the door. But, it does mean we can learn how to use our homes to glorify God, teach our children how to be hospitable, and welcome those unlike us into our home.
The authors share great recommendations on how to do this as well, but you can simply use these as ideas – and start your own ministry in your home to your people.
Thanks Moody for this book and all thoughts are my own.
by Kimberly | Apr 20, 2017 | Books
Do you often feel like your whole life is one entire lesson in patience?
You wait in your mommy’s belly to be born.
You wait to take your first steps, to go potty all by yourself, to have your first day of school, to ride your bike without training wheels.
My big can’t wait to turn 5 because he wants to chew gum.
You wait for the day you get your driver’s license. Till you graduate. Till you turn 21. Until you get married. Until you have kids. Until you buy a house. Until you are an empty-nester.
My life has definitely been a long waiting period. Let’s just speed things up till my 30s. I had gotten my dream admin job. Then I got my dream writing/creative job. Then, shortly into my dream job, I met my husband. I was 34. Most of my friends were married. I still wasn’t. And I’d quit praying those prayers about finding my spouse. I was enjoying being single.
Thankfully, we didn’t need to wait long to get married or to have kids. But, already, I want them to be older so we can travel more, to be potty trained, or to be in school – without losing the swing time at the local park.
We are also in a time of waiting for restoration and news on a job. I’ve learned a lot in waiting. I can’t speed it up. I can’t do anything by worrying about it. Some would say I’ve gotten cynical and jaded, and may be I’ve in some ways about some things. But, I also know that life is out of my hands, and God has bigger, perfect hands.
Ann Swindell, in her book Still Waiting, does a masterful job of sharing with us not only her journey in waiting for healing, but also uses her sanctified imagination to bring the story of the bleeding woman (in the gospels) to life. I will never read that short narrative about her the same again.
When I was telling my husband about her book I was crying by the time I finished telling him of all the inner turmoil that the woman must have known. How her life was eaten up with shame and loneliness.
So, let me encourage you, no matter what stage of waiting you are in, you can learn truths about others and the gospel and yourself in this book. Ann is a skilled writer and storyteller and is authentic and real about boasting in the Gospel.
Thanks Tyndale for the book. All opinions are my own.
by Kimberly | Apr 19, 2017 | Books
People who name the titles of books need to have a marketing degree. There would be several ways you could market this book by Wendy Alsup, but I don’t think any would be as catchy without being condescending as this one.
Is the Bible Good for Women? Well, we would say of course it is. The author uses her upbringing and her theological worldview to answer so many questions that women especially have about the Bible. She wants to help her readers develop a Jesus (gospel) view of Scripture.
In her book she covers everything from Creation, submission, the Fall, how Jesus models “women’s issues” and how Paul advised the new church to work in regards to women, and everything in between. She engages hew audience, which could both be women who grew up in the church and are solid conservative women, or these women who are reading her book could be feminist believers (or unbelievers).
She overs her topics well, and always points to Jesus. So, whether you agree with her completely or not, it is up to you. But, I do think this book would be a good start in the topic of women and the church.
Thanks to Blogging for Books for the book. All opinions are my own. amazon
by Kimberly | Apr 12, 2017 | parenting, Shepherding Children
A few years back a sweet friend started displaying these gorgeous flowers in her social media feeds. I had really never seen them before, or at least didn’t have a category for them. These wild, round, ever going flowers with lettuce leaves just struck me as the perfect spring flower.
Ranunculus are wild. They sprout and twig all over the place. You can try to force it to go in the direction you want it to, but most likely it will just go right back to what it is doing and do its own thing. If you force it to much, it will break right off of its light green stem.
They can stand alone or be fine in a group. I went to a brunch recently for a great ministry and one of the attendees has designed beautiful tablescapes just with ranunculus. They were simple and elegant and fun and stunning.
The past few years I have gotten in the habit of going in to Trader Joes and waiting eagerly for them to arrive in the front of the store. For their little round faces to be smiling at me, begging me to take them home to adorn my table or bathroom counter. And every time I walk in the house I see them, and smile. And think of my friend. And think of my boys.
Now, what in the world do ranunculus have to do with raising children? Something I ask my boys: “Who made ranunculus?” God did they will respond. And you know what, God did make them. He made everything to be its perfectly designed self. He made elephants to have long trunks. He made giraffes to have long necks. He made ants to be small and strong. He made clouds to float along in the sky and carry buckets of rain and snow. He is a perfect Creator.
He made ranunculus to be their sprouty, wild, crazy, perfectly perfect selves.
And that is how he made both of my boys. He made them perfect in his image. He made them to each have a perfect path designed for them that will encounter many different things along the way. They will be different in their perfect unique ways. They will have their own journey and path to God. They will learn differently. They will respond to the world differently. They have different paths but ones that I pray will end at Jesus.
I can’t force them to be who I want them to be. I can tell them to obey and expect obedience, but I can’t choose their path for them. I can train them up in the way of the Lord, but ultimately their life with Jesus has been chosen by Jesus.
As I was designing some ranunculus pictures the other day, I was telling my boys about how God made them so unique and I was glad I get to have them for a little while. They were exploring the different colors, its scent, and even kissing it. I love having different ways of teaching my boys God’s truth and even good morals.
As they learn to explore more, watch shows that have good morals, I love to bring in the natural world and good wholesome shows like the ones I can find on PureFlix . As long as you are intentional about teaching your kids, the natural world, books, movies, television shows can all be great tools to teach your children about who they are and who God is.
